Our knowledge of Saint Joseph comes from Scripture. He was a carpenter, a working man. He was the husband of the Blessed Virgin Mary and the guardian or foster father of the Lord. He wasn't rich, for when he took Jesus to the Temple to be circumcised and Mary to be purified he offered the sacrifice of two turtledoves or a pair of pigeons, allowed only for those who could not afford a lamb (Luke 2:24). Despite these humble means, Joseph came from a royal lineage. Luke and Matthew both mark his descent from King David. Indeed the angel who first tells Joseph about Jesus greets him with the royal title, "son of David.”
When he discovered Mary was pregnant after they had been betrothed, he knew the child was not his but was as yet unaware that she was carrying the Son of God. He knew women accused of adultery could be stoned to death. The compassionate Joseph resolved not to expose her to shame or cruelty. In fact, at the angel’s assurance in a dream, Joseph took Mary as his wife.
After the birth of Jesus, Joseph protected Mary and Jesus by fleeing to Egypt when he learned that Herod sought the death of the divine child. He returned to Nazareth after the danger passed. When Jesus stayed in the Temple we are told Joseph (along with Mary) searched for him with great anxiety for three days. Joseph treated Jesus as his own son. Since Joseph does not appear in Jesus' public life, it is generally believed that Joseph probably died before Jesus entered public ministry.
Joseph is the patron saint of the dying because, assuming he died before Jesus' public life, he died with Jesus and Mary close to him, the way we all would like to leave this earth.
Joseph is also patron saint of the Universal Church, families, fathers, expectant mothers, travelers, immigrants, house sellers and buyers, craftsmen, engineers, and working people in general.
We can imagine that Joseph did not fully understand the circumstances surrounding Christ's conception and birth, but he was able to love what he did not fully understand. It is in this love that his faith and sanctity are revealed. However, the Scriptures are mostly silent in regard to details about St. Joseph. After the story of Christ's birth, St. Joseph seems to disappear from the Gospels. Generations of writers have nonetheless treasured many pious legends about St. Joseph, and the Church assures us that he remains active in the life of the Church to this very day, but in terms of personal details, anecdotes, true life stories, there is silence. Perhaps the silence of St. Joseph is his most profound witness.
Saints are not celebrities, who leverage every detail about their lives so that they might be known and recognized. A saint is someone who, in the desire to be like Christ, is able and willing to disappear into the mission God gives them. For some saints, this mission brings them a great deal of attention. But for most saints, the life of grace involves a very low profile and a death to self that requires an immersion into ordinary circumstances. Saints accept these circumstances becasue they know that it is through the ordinary that God accomplishes the extraordinary!
Joseph was betrothed to Mary. This is more than being engaged. It means they were actually married. It was the practice at that time for a couple to marry rather young. Once betrothed they usually lived an additional year in their parents’ household as they became more acquainted and prepared for life together. Now at a certain point it was discovered that Mary was pregnant, though not by Joseph. The Law provided that if a man discovered that his betrothed was not a virgin, he should divorce her and not “sully” his home. Joseph was prepared to follow the Law’s requirements. However, he did not wish to expose Mary to the full force of the law which prescribed that she be stoned. He thus remained quiet as to his reason for the divorce and Mary would escape such a fate. Failure to divorce Mary would expose Joseph to cultural ramifications. His standing in the community would be harmed. In the divine plan, the Lord of course, intervened. Joseph is told in a dream not to fear and that Mary has committed no sin. Matthew records: When Joseph awoke, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife. (Matt 1:24)
Joseph is told to cling to his wife. He “obeys God rather than men.” It takes a strong man to do this especially considering the culture in which Joseph lived. Joseph models strong manhood and has something to say to the men of our day. In the current wedding vows a man agrees to cling to his wife, for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness or health. Our culture often pressures men to bail out in times of struggle. Joseph shows the way by obeying God over the pressures of prevailing culture.