Having a disagreement? Try this: Rate how strongly you feel about the issue on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being “I would be devastated to give in on this one.” Spouse also rates the issue. Sometimes the partner with the lesser investment will be willing to give in - this time. If you're both about 5, seek a middle ground. If you're both around 10, seek a creative new solution or put off the decision and agree to disagree for now. Don't play games though. If one partner ALWAYS feels like a 10, he or she may need to deal with control issues.